Thursday, October 11, 2018

Interview with Veronica Padilla of Gentle Mentals - Shining A Playful Light On Mental Illness to Soften the Stigma


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Hello! Today I have creative genius Veronica Padilla on the blog to talk about how she helps soften the stigma through her whimsical characters which she lovingly calls her Animals With Issues.  Did you know that according to the World Health Organization that mental illness affects 1 in 5 people.  However, talking about mental health issues can be challenging, so when I saw these cute little characters, I immediately thought, what a great way to help teach children about mental health or about how to educate others on their family’s mental health diagnosis in a more lighthearted manner.  Although mental health is a serious topic and should be taken seriously, there are other creative ways to introduce and educate others about it to help break down the stigma around it.

So, here we go…

Hi Veronica!  Thank you for your time. 

Tell me about yourself.

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What is Gentle Mentals?

Gentle Mentals is a Chicago-based grassroots initiative aimed at shining a playful light on mental illness to soften its stigma and get people talking. We mix hyper-friendly, minimalist design and a little dark truthful humor to address this heavy topic. Laughter is healing and a powerful ice-breaker into a conversation. If we can speak more openly about something that touches so many, we'd all be better for it.

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How did you come up with the idea of animals with mental health issues?

The idea came came by accident. I misheard my step-daughter say something that I swear sounded like “bipolar bear.” We thought the absurdity of this was hilarious and quickly came up with a few more characters. That day I decided to make a book. They always say write about what you know and I knew all these characters very well. Between my father, myself, my husband, step-kids, and co-workers we can check off almost every major mental illness. As I got deeper into the project, it became more and more apparent that this was bigger than a book and had much deeper meaning to me as well. A perfect example of turning pain into purpose.   

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I like your hashtag #TakesOneToLoveOne can you explain what that means?

There was a saying that we used as kids, a come-back when someone would tease you. And it was “takes one to know one.” Knowing that there is a stigma with mental illness, I wanted to riff off of that but to put a positive spin on it. And now it has a double meaning for me. It only takes one person to love another, to change perspective and to be the light for someone else when things are dark. But also, “takes one to know one” as in I’ve been there on both sides of the coin – as someone who’s suffered through it and as the loved one for the person who is suffering. Both sides are difficult. Both sides need love and support.

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On your website you say that labels are used to ignite a dialogue about real stuff and you explain this in a very positive way, can you tell me more about why you feel this way?

We like to say that labels are the P.I.T.S. (Provocative Invitations to Talk Sincerely.) Gentle Mentals are fictional animals with very real issues. And each character is named according to the illness they deal with – Bipolar Bear, Borderline Collie, ADHD’eer, etc. These labels are shorthand for understanding a bit of their story and are the gateway into a larger discussion. We aren’t using the labels to name-call or offend, but instead as a tool to inspire dialogue. I designed the characters in an innocent, child-like fashion to diffuse the taboo topic of mental illness. It’s a bit of a Jedi mind trick. Rather than talking about the stigma and how we need to stop it, we have characters embody a specific illness trait. The characters themselves do the heavy lifting for us. And people relate to the characters instantly—I often get responses like, “I love OCD Otter!” or “Hypochondriac Hippo is my favorite!” or “I can so relate to PTSDingo and Anxiety Allie!” Suddenly people find themselves talking about it without even realizing it and not making it into a big deal. It normalizes and neutralizes something that is typically very touchy – which is really cool and exactly the point.

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There is some depersonalization of labels and stigma through the use of animals instead of people.  Personally, I think this is a genius idea however, have you ever faced any controversy over your approach?

I think that the depersonalization of the animals with labels is what makes the idea work. Many people have embraced it, love it and get what we’re doing. We’ve had a lot of initial conversations with big mental health organizations that love our idea and want to partner with us, but who got cold feet. My assumption is that most of these organizations have spent a lot of time, money and effort to train people to approach the topic in a very specific, careful way. And our approach might appear to go against the grain of what they’ve been preaching. So I understand why they’re hesitant to take a risk with us. We aren’t taking a traditional route and it might make some people nervous. But it’s also why I think that it has the potential to change the current norm and really make a difference.    

Can you tell me about how you helped change someone’s life through Gentle Mentals?

My dream is to make some impact and change people’s lives – to get people talking so that they can get the help and support they need before things get too dark. I know that I’ve achieved that based on the feedback and the small successes we’ve had. People telling me how refreshing this is and that they feel a weight has been lifted because it’s ok to laugh a little. Not to make fun, but to take some of the pressure off. People that are strangers as well as people I’ve known for years, unloading a life-time of mental weight that they have been carrying.

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How are you giving back to the community through your organization?
Beyond enabling conversation, we also carry a small line of products which we call Mental Goods. We sell the book, a journal (Mental Notes), prints and t-shirts. And we donate a portion of the proceeds to mental health and suicide prevention organizations.  

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What do you see for the future of Gentle Mentals?

More Mental Goods – Plushies!! How cool would it be to have fuzzy tangible softies that we can hug when times get tough or punch instead of beating ourselves up? I’m planning on starting a Kickstarter campaign to help make this happen. But first I’m focusing on building our community to make sure the campaign won’t die before it’s been given a chance. So if you want to see plushies too, please follow us on social and share our project!  
I’m also planning to have a pop-up shop/art installation in May 2019 to honor mental health month. And hoping to create a non-profit organization that promotes mental health awareness through the lens of entertainment, educating without being preachy.
And a bit farther down the line I dream of having a theater production of the book produced. With comedians giving monologues about each character. So to anyone interested in helping to make this happen, please reach out! I’d love to hear from you.J



Where can we find you?


Thank you for sharing your time with us today Veronica!

Wednesday, October 10, 2018

World Mental Health Day

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Wednesday, October 3, 2018

Work Party Event By Create and Cultivate at We Work


A few weeks ago, I attended the Work Party Event by Create and Cultivate at We Work to hear a panel of women entrepreneurs give advice and talk about their lessons learned through entrepreneurship.  When I walked in I was immediately greeted and given a fabulous gift bag!


Everything is themed "so pretty in pink".


They even had a pretty pink bar.


One of the most helpful things I learned from this event was that feedback is a gift...so listen.


They gave us this cute little notebook and I'm definitely going to be using this to jot down all of my creative ideas.


Since I was driving, I had water and a slice of lime:)  Never drink and drive.


This is a quote from Jaclyn Johnson and she has a new book out called Work Party for women who want to create and cultivate the career of their dreams.


Networking of course!

They have conferences coming up and you can get tix here


Saturday, September 22, 2018

36th Annual Long Beach Leadership Prayer Breakfast with Guest Speaker Pastor Brian Sumner

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I grabbed a quick photo with Guest Speaker: Pastor Brian Sumner at the 36th Annual Long Beach Leadership Prayer Breakfast at the Renaissance Hotel in Long Beach.  He is a professional skateboarder turned Christian minister. He gave a truly inspirational message that day and spoke about his personal testimony.
God uses people in all walks of life...Are you ready?


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It was a great community event, and it was nice to hear about all of the wonderful ways that God is working through all of the outstanding leaders in Long Beach.







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Wednesday, September 12, 2018

The Incredible Life of India's Instagram-Famous Rajkumari, Technology Executive, Human Rights and Clean Water Activist, and Style Icon


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Hello! Today I want to introduce you to Rajkumari Amy Mali.  I first noticed her while scrolling through Instagram.  She had beautiful pictures, but what really captured my attention was her international love story.  Every week or so, I would see her story pop-up in my Instagram feed teaching me something new about Indian wedding cultural traditions as she experienced it through her native #Calindianprincess (California Born Indian Princess) eyes.  Being a native Californian myself, I was certainly intrigued by the extensive wedding practices and her journey into becoming an Indian bride and wife.  In my personal opinion, Indian wedding dresses or “saris” are some of the most beautiful and masterfully handcrafted pieces on the planet.  Let’s learn more about her love story...

So, here we go…

Hi Amy! Thank you for sharing your time with us today!

Firstly, in your Instagram profile your tag line is:

“Breaking boundaries & changing the world one gold bangle at a time!” 

Can you please tell me more about that and about your background?

Hello lovely to meet you.

Where are you from?

I was born in California, USA to American parents. I grew up in the small town of Pleasant Valley, California. My hobbies included recreational sports such as cheerleading, biking, swimming, sailing, and the arts such as ballet and painting.

Amy at age 5
Amy as a Cal Poly Cheerleader


                    
Growing up in the Christian faith we celebrated holidays like Christmas and Easter.

Every year during Christmas and Easter my parents would take me and my sister to a homeless shelter to serve warm meals and give gifts to homeless children. It gave me the perspective of serving the less fortunate at a very young age which has been instrumental. I always dreamed big and wanted to change the world for the less fortunate. I received a Bachelor’s of Science degree in Business from California Polytechnic State University. I applied this, first, to the technology sector and, later, for social impact entrepreneurial endeavors.

Amy founded DayOne Response Inc. a company that provided clean water technology globally.  She was honored by The Tech Awards as a Laureate for tremendous global impact, recognized by the United Nations for humanitarian innovation and awarded by Toyota for her life-saving technology.



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Water bag providing clean water to children 

after Nepal Earthquake



I am most proud of being part of providing over 40 million liters of clean drinking water to disaster relief beneficiaries around the world. My passion is clean water as I believe it is a basic human right.


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Amy Mali with Diane von Furstenberg
I loved meeting the extraordinary Diane von Fürstenberg at the Women in the World event (where my company was honored) as she is an inspiration to women globally! She is best known for her fashion label, which is often shortened to DvF and her iconic wrap dresses.


“Be with someone who looks at you like you are magical.” –Amy Mali Rajkumari

You two make the cutest couple and it is so obvious that you both love each other! 

How did you meet your husband?

Let me start by saying Fairy tales do exist! We met each other unexpectedly at the tech company we both were part of in the Silicon Valley. The day Shaunak started I had an immediate crush and called my mother to tell her about him. We ended up becoming friends for years and fell head over heels in love. It truly was magical like the universe brought us together.

What made you decide to start an Instagram centered around your love story?

At our formal engagement function in India there was a man who spoke to my Future Father in Law and told him that he had forbade his son from being with a non-Indian girl and had cut of all communication. After witnessing our engagement and seeing the true love Shaunak and I had for each other he said he changed his mind and decided he will reach back out to his son. This was so amazing to me! Sharing our love story was able to help change one life. I set out to simply share our story with hopes to inspire people to believe in LOVE!

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Amy’s parents on left and Shaunak’s on right coming together for the marriage 


One of my favorite quotes on your Instagram is:

“Knowledge of other people’s beliefs and ways of thinking must be used to build bridges, not to create conflicts.” –Kjeli Magne Bondevik   

Can you tell me why this quote is significant for you?

Yes, we must build bridges and not create conflicts. We are global citizens and we have the responsibility to learn about other people’s beliefs in an interconnected world.


Christmas is a holiday that you both celebrate and share. Before you got married, what types of compromises did you discuss in regards to your cultural differences and religious beliefs/ traditions?

We went into our marriage with the understanding that we would be blending both of our cultures into something new and amazing. We decided to keep the holidays and traditions that made us happy. We never saw this as a compromise we saw it as an exciting opportunity.

I come from a very mixed family racially and culturally as well.  When my parents got married in the 1970’s they faced some adversity amongst friends and family in regards to their relationship being seen as “socially acceptable” due to their mixed background, have you faced that in your interracial relationship/ marriage?  If so, how did you handle it?

We faced many challenges as we were not considered “socially acceptable” to the Indian community. In fact when Shaunak and I started dating I was a secret from his parents for an entire year. This was really hard for us. My parents got to know and love Shaunak over that year while his parents were still strangers to me. Shaunak summoned the courage to tell his parents one winter night that he was in love with an American woman. I can’t speak from their standpoint but from mine there were lots of tears because their initial shock came across as not welcoming. I feel so lucky and blessed that after a few very difficult months Shaunak’s family came to accept me. They decided not only would they accept me but they would announce to the world and Indian community our engagement for all to see. Our engagement was an amazing milestone that we celebrated. Shaunak and I built a strong foundation for our relationship because we knew there would be many challenges that ‘normal’ couples don’t have to face. We both feel so lucky and blessed to be together that we celebrate our love every day. I’m extremely optimistic that the tides are changing with a growing number of interracial couples being celebrated by both cultures. Congratulations to the newly engaged Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas!

    
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First official introduction to Indian society


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I want to know all about your wedding dresses.  I saw that you wore a white wedding dress as well as a traditional Indian sari wedding dress. Can you tell me about the details of both?

Gauri Kekre was the existing Mali family designer based in Mumbai, Maharashtra. She designs custom, couture pieces. Gauri Kekre is one of those rare exceptionally gifted designers. Every piece she creates is a true masterpiece down to every detail. She created all of my dresses for the many days of the Indian wedding. She also created my exquisite American wedding gown and all of the bridesmaid’s dresses. https://www.instagram.com/gaurikekre/

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American wedding dress with Indian zardozi 
embroidery and beading


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Indian wedding traditional Maharashtrian 
saree and hand beaded veil
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Sangeet dress gold beaded and chiffon 
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Teal and gold sequined ball gown with beaded overlay for wedding reception 
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Traditional Green Haldi Saree with coordinating blouse

I see you wearing really stunning pieces of jewelry in your photos, can you enlighten me on the importance of Indian jewelry pieces?

"Jewelry is like the perfect spice… it enhances what is already there!" Jewelry has been a significant adornment for Indian women through the ages. Jewelry studded with different gems is quite popular among Indians. For reasons ranging from spiritual to aesthetic to health, gemstone jewelry has become the part of life of Indian women and men both. These stone jewelries are worn according to the individual's astrological chart and ruling of planet. According to ancient Indian history necklaces worn near the heart are believed to control emotions and strengthen one’s love. Wearing a necklace of stones is believed to bind ourselves with their eternal powers. Since ancient times, necklaces, pendants, strings of beads and elaborate ornamental collars were worn by women to bring good luck and ward off the evil eye.

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Indian jewelry and my mehendi 

Tell me about the tradition of getting the Mehendi or henna done.

Mehndi or "Mehendi" is a form of body art from Ancient India, in which decorative designs are created on a person's body, using a paste, created from the powdered dry leaves of the henna plant. Mehndi is derived from the Sanskrit word mendhikā. Haldi (staining oneself with turmeric paste) as well as mehndi are Vedic customs, intended to be a symbolic representation of the outer and the inner sun. Vedic customs are centered on the idea of "awakening the inner light". Traditional Indian designs are representations of the sun on the palm, which, in this context, is intended to represent the hands and feet. The earliest clear evidence of henna powder application on the body appears in Egyptian mummies whose hair and nails were stained with the reddish brown tones of henna. Botanists believe the henna plant, Lawsonia inermis, originated in Egypt and was carried regularly to India where it was used since at least 700 AD for decorating hands and feet. Pretty cool this tradition dates back to Egypt!


What is the garland ceremony and why is it important?

One of the most important Indian rituals is that of exchanging a beautiful garland of flowers. The tradition of garlanding is one of the many rites in an Indian wedding. When the groom garlands his wife, it is believed he bestows half of his spiritual energy on her. Likewise when the bride garlands the groom, she similarly shares her spiritual energy with him. This exchange is said to mean the couple will uphold one another as gods in their heart and respect each other. This bestowing of spiritual energies ultimately symbolizes the union of two souls in marriage.

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Garland ceremony


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Puja ceremony

What is the tradition of using turmeric, rice, and flowers?

In Hinduism, puja is done on a variety of occasions, frequency and settings. It may include daily puja done in the home, to occasional temple ceremonies and annual festivals, to few lifetime events such as a wedding, or to begin a new venture. This is a photo of the Puja thali from our wedding. Puja thali means "Prayer plate" and it is a tray or a big container in which the entire puja materials accumulated and decorated. In Hindu religious occasions, festivals, traditions and rituals, puja thali maintans an auspicious role. Puja thali may be made of steel, gold, silver, brass or any other metal; it may be rounded, oval or any other shaped or with little engravings and designs as much as decoration needed. 


I love the post about Shaunak’s grandmothers in Mumbai and also how you explain respect to elders in the Indian culture.  Can you please explain the tradition of Namaskar and Pranama and what it means?

Namaste sometimes spoken as Namaskar, Namaskaramis a respectful form of greeting in Hindu custom. It is used both for salutation and valediction. Namaste is usually spoken with a slight bow and hands pressed together, palms touching and fingers pointing upwards, thumbs close to the chest. In Hinduism it means "I bow to the divine in you". The greeting may also be spoken without the gesture or the gesture performed wordlessly, carrying the same meaning.

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Amy with Shaunak’s Grandmothers

Lastly, do you have any parting words of wisdom that you would like to share about love, marriage, interracial relationships, and transitioning from one culture to another in a marriage?

Believe in love! It’s the best thing in the world.

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Shaunak and Amy’s American Wedding





Tuesday, September 11, 2018

YouTube Videos For A Stylish Love Story

Hi there!  If you haven't had a chance to check out my videos on Instagram or Facebook, you can check them out on my YouTube Channel @  A Stylish Love Story:


This is a little inspirational video from the Bible verse 2 Corinthians 1:3-4.  When God Gives Us Comfort In Our Pain, Pass On His Comfort To Those Who Need It:)

Thursday, September 6, 2018

3 Reasons Why Team Work Works



Hello!  How is your week going?  Today I want to talk to you about team work.  How many of us have been brought up to be completely self-reliant so that we don’t have to ask anyone for help for anything?  In many ways this way of thinking can be useful if we are alone and trying to survive on an island.  However, I have observed that in life and work, most success has come as a result of collaboration and team work. 

1.       More Solutions and Options
Observing leaders who have an “open mindset” to listening to numerous people’s ideas vs. leaders who only rely on themselves for a solution to a problem or to create and grow a better organization I feel are better leaders.  Why?  Because the one thing we can’t always see ourselves is perspective.  Everyone sees things differently.  Understanding how people think differently about an approach to a team project or a solution to a problem is fascinating to me and this is my favorite part of team work.  It’s also helpful, because once we’ve gathered about ten ideas together vs. just one (ours), we will have a lot of options (good or bad) to choose from.  We may also have found an idea that will work better than the one we had originally thought of ourselves.

 I know this sounds like common sense, but how many of us actually do this?

2.       Expert Knowledge and Higher Quality Outcomes
When I started my blog I was trying to do everything myself, but I quickly learned to delegate tasks in areas that I wasn’t highly skilled in like photography and web design.  Working with professionals who had expert knowledge in their fields made it easier for me to focus on the creative side which is my favorite aspect of blogging.  They also did a much better job than what I would have done on my own. 

What is your favorite aspect of blogging?

3.       Connecting and Building Relationships
Working on a team can be fun and rewarding at the end of the day.  Instead of feeling frustrated in trying to figure everything out on our own, we can ask for help from the relationships that we have built through connecting with other people through team work. Also, whenever possible, it is best to meet in person to make a face to face connection.  A lot of our communication is nonverbal.  Also, you can’t hear the “tone” of someone’s voice through a screen, an email, or a text message.

I hope you found this helpful!


With Love,

Joanna