Saturday, May 11, 2019
Friday, February 15, 2019
Do you have a best friend? Do you remember when you met your best friend? When I was in college at Concordia University, I met my best friend and we just clicked. We look nothing alike really, she has green eyes and blonde hair, and I have dark eyes and dark hair. We were raised in completely different towns from different backgrounds, but one thing we did have in common…we were both genuinely nice women. We are women who don’t compete with each other. We both love dancing and watching entertaining live shows. We like laughing and are always looking to watch funny movies or standup comedy. We also really enjoy helping people, and that is why we both went into the field of education.
What do you and your friends have in common? See, what I look for are people who have good hearts, beautiful minds, and authentically accept who I am and also care about me as a person. It doesn't matter how many friends I have, just as long as they are real friendships. I have friends who come from diverse backgrounds and feel that my friendship circle is an open, not closed one. I believe that a bridge of friendship can be built, even if we don't always agree on everything...and that is okay.
Today, my best friend and I live miles apart, but the bond formed through Faith and Friendship will last for a lifetime.
What do you look for in a good friend?
Saturday, February 2, 2019
I understand this ideology because I am Asian. My father is Okinawan Japanese and was raised in Hawaii. Growing up I understood what it meant to “save face”. We are taught that it is not okay to show weakness or any imperfections, and whatever you do, definitely do not cry in public. In doing so, it could not only reflect poorly on you, but also on your own family members.
If you are not familiar with this concept, here is the definition for you on Saving Face (according to Psychology Today):
Saving Face - The concept is a core social value in Asian cultures, among others. The meaning has remained stable across time. Saving Face signifies a desire—or defines a strategy—to avoid humiliation or embarrassment, to maintain dignity or preserve reputation.
So, what happens when “saving face” becomes more important than saving our own mental health? At what cost? It could literally mean saving someone’s life, or having a better quality of life, both of which are incredibly important. In fact, too important to “save face” or to stay silent on this topic about Asians and mental health. I’d rather see someone I love “lose face”, instead of lose their own life to suicide because they didn’t get access to the help they needed due to cultural stigma.
Have you ever tried to “save face” over taking care of your own mental health? Or do you know of any friends who struggle with talking about depression, anxiety, and other mental health related issues because they are trying so desperately to “save face”?
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.
It really is okay not to be okay, and it's okay to talk about it. Talking about mental health saves lives.
Read more about Minority Mental Health Month here:
If you need help, call the NAMI Help Line: 1-800-950-NAMI or TEXT "NAMI" TO 741741
Sunday, January 13, 2019
Hello! So now that some of us have set new year's resolutions, we can stop dreaming and start soaring in 2019. How have you decided to soar in 2019? This can be a personal goal to take better care of ourselves by cooking healthy meals, sleeping more, or by exercising routinely. It can also be a professional goal to finish a degree, apply for your dream job, take a class, learn a new skill, or finally start that business you have been dreaming of. You can also give back to your community by volunteering and serving others who really need your help.
Whatever it is, I have realized that I cannot do everything on my own like I have been trying to do in the past. I am relying on my faith in God every day and trusting in His plan for my life. Don't worry if you feel lost, or don't know what or who you are supposed to be in this life. We all feel that way at times. Last year I faced personal struggles and financial setbacks. Honestly, my life was a mess, but I came to God in daily prayer and began to read his word. He filled me with peace, love, and more understanding of the people around me. I have learned so much and feel that I have grown into a different person through serving the homeless community and low income youth. I'm still learning so much about people and relationships, and I hope that never ends.
How will you serve others and soar this year?
Tuesday, January 1, 2019
Wednesday, December 19, 2018
|Hello there! Merry Christmas to you!|
|Who are you celebrating with this year?|
|It's time to get the party started.|
|Where is my Love?|
|It looks like it's just me and my books.|
The lesson I learned this year is that we should be coming home and cooking and eating dinner with our families instead of working so much overtime.
We should be enjoying life instead of Instagramming every second of it.
We should spend more time cuddling in each others arms instead of always being too busy.
You don't want to miss out on what really matters in life, finding love and happiness with the person of our dreams:)
Don't waste time, you only live once!
Photography: Kendra Blair
Set Decoration: Joanna Joy
Decorations: Michaels and Jo-Ann
Saturday, December 8, 2018
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about ways in which we can give back to our communities. Personally, I consider my community most of Southern California. Just think about it, if we can make a weekly visit to Starbucks, have a roof over our heads, and aren’t starving most of our day, then we can consider ourselves one of the “lucky” or “blessed” individuals living in the state.
However, this isn’t the way we should see the homeless problem. These people are hungry, lack shelter, clothing, medical, and mental health care all year long. It’s not just a problem that occurs during the holidays, it’s unfortunately a very normal and real problem for a growing number of individuals living in this state. How many of you know people who have been forced to live out of their cars or even on the streets? I do...and it has moved me to begin studying the issues surrounding the problem of poverty and homelessness.
The face of homelessness includes:
- The mentally ill
- LGBT youth
- College students
How we can help:
- Advocate for mental health services
- Advocate for housing for the homeless
- Make a monetary donation to a homeless shelter
- Donate clothes, blankets, socks (socks are the most requested item), and shoes
- Donate food to food pantries
We can volunteer all year long at:
- · Food Banks LA Food Bank Food Banks OC
- · Food Pantries
- · Local churches that serve the homeless meals
- · Homeless Shelters
- · Online on VolunteerMatch.org
- · On the Golden App