Hello! How are you doing? Today is World Oceans Day and we can all do our part and get involved in keeping our oceans clean. Feel free to repost these posts with the hashtag #worldoceansday that I made from Canva.
Do you have a best friend?
Do you remember when you met your best friend? When I was in college at Concordia University, I met my best friend and we just clicked.
We look nothing alike really, she has green eyes and blonde hair, and I
have dark eyes and dark hair. We were
raised in completely different towns from different backgrounds, but one thing
we did have in common…we were both genuinely nice women. We are women who don’t compete with each other. We both love dancing and
watching entertaining live shows. We
like laughing and are always looking to watch funny movies or standup comedy.
We also really enjoy helping people, and that is why we
both went into the field of education.
What do you and your friends have in common? See, what I look for are people who have good hearts, beautiful minds, and authentically accept who I am and also care about me as a person. It doesn't matter how many friends I have, just as long as they are real friendships. I have friends who come from diverse backgrounds and feel that my friendship circle is an open, not closed one. I believe that a bridge of friendship can be built, even if we don't always agree on everything...and that is okay.
Today, my best friend and I live miles apart, but the bond formed through Faith and Friendship will last for a lifetime.
Have you ever struggled with depression?I have.I still do.Some days it can feel
heavy, like there is a weight that is sitting on top of you that you can’t lift
off.Some days it is the feeling that
you don’t want to get out of bed because you feel so hopeless.Even the daily routine seems tough, and doing
things like getting dressed, taking a shower, eating, socializing, and putting
on a smile to get through your day so that other people won’t notice your
sadness feels extremely difficult.Making other people uncomfortable by talking about our feelings can seem
scary, especially if we were raised in a culture where we were socialized to
always be polite, kind, and respectful by putting other people’s feelings before our
I understand this ideology because I am Asian.My father is Okinawan Japanese and was raised
in Hawaii.Growing up I understood what
it meant to “save face”.We are taught
that it is not okay to show weakness or any imperfections, and whatever you do,
definitely do not cry in public.In
doing so, it could not only reflect poorly on you, but also on your own family
If you are not familiar with this concept, here is the definition
for you on Saving Face (according to Psychology Today):
Saving Face - The
concept is a core social value in Asian cultures, among others. The meaning has
remained stable across time.Saving Face
signifies a desire—or defines a strategy—to avoid humiliation or embarrassment,
to maintain dignity or preserve reputation.
So, what happens when “saving face” becomes more important
than saving our own mental health?At
what cost?It could literally mean saving
someone’s life, or having a better quality of life, both of which are
incredibly important. In fact, too important to
“save face” or to stay silent on this topic about Asians and mental
health.I’d rather see someone I love
“lose face”, instead of lose their own life to suicide because they didn’t get
access to the help they needed due to cultural stigma.
Have you ever tried to “save face” over taking care of your
own mental health? Or do you know of any friends who struggle with talking
about depression, anxiety, and other mental health related issues because they
are trying so desperately to “save face”?
It really is okay not to be okay, and it's okay to talk about it. Talking about mental health saves lives.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.
Read more about Minority Mental Health Month here:
Hello! So now that some of us have set new year's resolutions, we can stop dreaming and start soaring in 2019. How have you decided to soar in 2019? This can be a personal goal to take better care of ourselves by cooking healthy meals, sleeping more, or by exercising routinely. It can also be a professional goal to finish a degree, apply for your dream job, take a class, learn a new skill, or finally start that business you have been dreaming of. You can also give back to your community by volunteering and serving others who really need your help. Whatever it is, I have realized that I cannot do everything on my ownlike I have been trying to do in the past. I am relying on my faith in God every day and trusting in His plan for my life. Don't worry if you feel lost, or don't know what or who you are supposed to be in this life. We all feel that way at times. Last year I faced personal struggles and financial setbacks. Honestly, my life was a mess, but I came to God in daily prayer and began to read his word. He filled me with peace, love, and more understanding of the people around me. I have learned so much and feel that I have grown into a different person through serving the homeless community and low income youth. I'm still learning so much about people and relationships, and I hope that never ends. How will you serve others and soar this year?